In this week’s TGIF, Kerry writes about how trauma is complex, affects us all and how it mustn’t be ignored. “The truth is that trauma affects us all. It affects our relationships, our work, and our overall well-being. It affects our communities, our society, and our world. And it's only by acknowledging and addressing our trauma that we can begin to heal.”

Big T Trauma is stuff that is simply egregious and tragic: abuse, neglect, death of a caregiver, family conflict, even natural disasters, severe medical events, and intergenerational trauma caused from oppression, genocide, or war. Little t traumas are actually quite universal in nature. These are the subtle, chronic events from bullying from peers, hostile work environments, microagressions, conditional love and criticism.

We’ve been here before. We’ve been scared, grief-stricken and overwhelmed. We’ve donated, posted memes and yelled in the shower. We’ve looked up marches, called our senators and ranted on social media.

But there’s something about mothering, or women in general we need to address as a culture.

And that is that mothering is not martyrdom.

In order to have uncomfortable and difficult talks about hard things in the world requires a level of safety in the home. Kids are going to have questions and they have to have permission to be vulnerable and get curious without shame or judgment.

When you have something shocking, like getting hit by a car, from behind, while walking back to the office after getting a cappuccino on a sunny day, you HAVE to pause. So, in this week’s newsletter I’m sharing a bit of what has been mulling around in my mind since the accident.

We often hear the term post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in the context of war and Veterans. However, PTSD can affect any person who has witnessed or experienced traumatic events or any person who has learned about someone close to them who has experienced traumatic events.

So what is Resource Tapping?

This technique is about building an inner resource team that you can lean on when life gets tough, shaky, overwhelming, draining, you name it.