One thing we see over and over again with our clients is the guilt one spouse has when they are trying to be happy and their spouse is depressed. What to do? How do you overcome the feeling like you’re leaving them behind? What about “in sickness and in health?”.
Read MoreI call on my no-nonsense internal referee who blows the whistle and stops my thinking/solving game, making me step back and regroup. It’s a genderless figure in my head who calls the shots in this moment and no matter how much I want to pursue more thinking/solving, the “agreement” is that I only get a green card when I drop my attempts to think/solve and go do something self-caring, like making myself a yogurt parfait or playing with my cat.
Read MoreShould you see a therapist? How do you know when it’s time to ask for help? Mental health care can actually be used as preventative care… if you are willing to see it that way.
Read MoreI like to think of mental health as mental fitness. We have to work WITH our minds to build mental strength. Just like we have to do push-ups, sit-ups, squats and lunges to build our physical strength, we have to do the work to gain awareness of our thoughts, feelings and actions so we can be mentally stronger.
Read MoreThe last big piece of meditation practice is, of course, the actual type(s) of meditation that you do. And there are more than one kind so you get to choose which work best for you! Remember, you are in control. There is no pressure to stick with a type of meditation or technique that doesn’t feel right to you.
Read MoreRegardless of what structure and types of meditations you choose, meet yourself where you are at everyday. And modify whatever meditation rule you feel is getting in your way of starting.
Read MoreYou might have been the type of person who felt a relaxation response after doing just one or two meditations, leaving you with a feeling of “wow meditation really works.” That’s fantastic. But as much as you can, shifting your mindset from “meditation is something that happens to me” to “meditation is a skill that I gain through simple, consistent practice” is important.
Read MoreIf you found a therapist that is a good fit, does it automatically mean that you will get better? And how can you tell if you are or if you aren’t? These are not simple questions since success in therapy looks very different case by case for many reasons.
