If you’re a long-time reader of this newsletter, you’ve heard me say this before: if you want your life to be easier, you have to do the hard things. If you want your life to be harder, you continue to do the easy things.

Parts Work has become a bit more mainstream in the last couple of years. Like much of the rise of mental health care, TikTok and influencers “finding themselves” during Covid have resulted in some growing attention and awareness.

The habit of rescuing others from their pain and abandoning myself in the process. Not wanting anyone to be upset with me and wanting to please.

Do you know who you are?

Do you know who you are in the absence of your worries, fears, and the stories you tell yourself?

For me, it’s a remembering, unlayering and an ongoing process of returning back to my true self.

Ah, the holiday season. When manipulation, guilt, and boundary-crossing rage.

But what if the finger actually needs to point at yourself?

What if you, my dear friend, are gaslighting yourself?

When it comes to consuming information, I’ve found again and again and again is that our greatest tool is our own inner wisdom

I learned a new term last week called “Family Of Origin Amnesia”. It’s this idea that we totally forget our family of origin dynamics as time goes on and we’ve created space.

This type of framework, otherwise known as “attachment”, describes a psychological connectedness that begins during infancy and continues to build over time, eventually defining how we relate to friends, family members and even strangers.

These days we are consuming so much information that our own inner wisdom can get suffocated. We look to influencers, the media, online quizzes, podcasts and yes, even therapists, to tell us what to think, eat, how to move, who to date and what career to have.

You’ve heard probably many times that a habit takes 10 days. Or wait, 21 days. No wait, 60 days, to form. Habits do not take a certain amount of time. Habits take, well, habit.

As our state prepares to reopen certain industries, I have found myself wondering where the truth is in the data and fears around the pandemic. How do we distinguish the truth from politics? Understand what is actually true versus being told to us? What is messaging and what is real?